Can You Tame Your Hookup
1. Don't Spring It Or Withhold Sex: The last thing you want to do is spring your newly discovered feelings on your hookup and you certainly shouldn't withhold sex. Let's say that you usually go to this person's house to get friendly together. If you suddenly show up and say that you're not going to have sex because you're in love, that's going to push the person away quickly. Instead, act like everything is normal and instead drop hints to gauge how the person feels.
2. Drop Hints: Don't just come out and say that you have feelings for the person, but instead start interjecting hints into the conversation. Tell your hookup about your friend who has a similar situation and now the two of them are dating. Play it carefully and you'll soon be able to determine if the other person feels the same way you do.
3. Taper Back: If you two are having sex on the regular, which is what a hookup is for, you should try to start tapering the activity back. Although played out, the old adage is true: "Why would the person buy the cow if they can get the milk for free?" If the person realizes that they need to step up their game and take things to the next level to continue having fun with you, they might discover that they do in fact have feelings for you.
4. Be Honest: If you've dropped hints and you've tapered back any activity and the person still doesn't act as though they're that into you, that's when you should just come out and say it. The more honest you can be, the better. It may be hard to come out and say that you feel more than you're letting on, especially if there's a chance of rejection from the other person, but it must be done for your piece of mind and so that neither of you are wasting any time if feelings aren't mutual.
5. Ask Them Out: The best way to take things to the next level with a hookup is to start going out on dates. The more time you spend with the other person, the more familiar you two will become and the more comfortable you'll feel around one another. This can help elevate you from hookup status to relationship status before you even realize it's happening. You never know, you two may naturally transition into a relationship as if it were meant to be.
Having a hookup can be a lot of fun, but sometimes you just want something more. Put these five tips into practice the next time you and your hookup hang out and make your feelings known.
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